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Exactly!!! Naija women be talking feminism and 21st century ish, women's rights and celebrating international women's day, but when its time to put down money, they remember that a man's place is to be the provider. Women...scammers

We all love a chivalrous man, who's got his lady's back, but let's be realistic for a second. In our grandparents time, and perhaps early in our parents time, the societal idea was that the man (in a marital home) was the sole (only, single, riding solo) breadwinner. The man was expected to provide the bulk of income coming into the family and anything his wife earned was seen as supplementary, nothing substantial. Her primary job was to be a home-maker and take care of the kids.

Until maybe three decades ago, the woman's role in the work force was very limited (at least in Naija). The ratio of men to women in any office was probably 10:1. Men got promotions much faster than women and even when women were promoted, the increase in pay was not as much as what the men got. No be the women's rights we dey fight for? Now, we got those rights, but we no wan the responsibility

that comes with it. You want to be more than the nanny with a ring, but you don't wanna adjust financially? Yeye women.

Ladies please, really what is the percentage of your fellow women dating or married to a man earning substantially more than you? A very small minority. Forget all that Disney Cinderella B.S. The reality is that the men we date or end up marrying are usually in our salary bracket or earning slightly more. So why do you want them to bear the brunt of all the bills?

These days, we have more couples where the wife is earning lots more than her babe. Does he still cover the rent? Because it's tradition and you don't want to emasculate him? Seriously! Only when it's convenient for us do we remember tradition and never consider that maybe its emasculating to his male psyche to ask him to do the dishes or disrespect him unnecessarily. Emasculating him

There are ways to make your man feel like a man, while adding value to his life as his helpmate. Do what works for you both; if he can afford to, let him cover rent and school fees and...but let's not overstretch an antiquated issue and remember that every decision you both make should be balanced for BOTH your benefits: 50 -50, give and take, all that good stuff!